Grief Is No Stranger to the MBC CommunityTo those of us in the cancer community, grief isn't a stranger. It's not an unknown emotion. And if you know anything about grief, you know that it tends to...Reactions0reactionsComments1 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Focusing on NutritionLast year, I made a significant change in my life when I decided to lose weight and get back in shape. In the previous 10 years, while working at a...Reactions0reactionsComments3 comments
Rethinking the Stages of Grief"Where are the rules of grief written, and who do we offend when we write our own?" -Sally Britton For the life of me, no matter how many losses I've...Reactions0reactionsComments1 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Am I a Vampire Spouse?"How does that make you feel?" our marriage counselor, Robert, asked me. "I guess I just feel alone a lot," I replied. After 5 months of counseling with Robert, we...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Femininity, Grief, and Cancer: Not Just Sugar and SpiceHaving come of age in the 1970s, I came to the feminist movement more from a baptism of fire than from any political persuasion. By 1977, when I was 25...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Let's Talk About Emotional TriggersI admit it's fun to listen to sad love songs when you're far away from the one you love. We all do it at some point in our lives. When...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Do You Even Care?My wife shed many tears when we relocated from California to Oregon 3 years ago. Her tears weren't solely for missing California, nor were they strictly for leaving behind family...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Did I Say I Hate Cancer?I'm tired of losing my loved ones to cancer. I rarely use the word "hate," but I'm not averse to standing on a mountaintop and shouting my hate for cancer...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
3 Big Cautions for PatientsWe were lying in bed one evening recently, watching an episode of Next Level Chef starring Gordon Ramsay. My wife was reading something on her phone at the same time...Reactions0reactionsComments5 comments
Growth and Grief as a CaregiverNavigating the metastatic breast cancer community comes with its ups and downs—stories of strength and beating the odds, stories of love and loss, advocacy and burnout. I've made friends, found...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: "Am I Enjoying Life?""Am I enjoying life?" I found myself pondering this question on a recent lonely drive. Have I truly embraced the joy of being alive in this world? Throughout my life...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Feeling Invisible: The Importance of Caring for the CaregiverI don't mean to sound selfish or pitiful, but sometimes, as a caregiver to someone with cancer, I feel forgotten and invisible. People seem to forget to care for the...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Moving and Changing: Navigating Its ChallengesLately, life in "cancerland" has felt so overwhelming; I feel a little lost, adrift in the changes our recent move across the country sent rippling through our lives. Even when...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Zometa From a Caregiver’s Point of ViewThere comes a time every 3 months when my partner, Steph, receives an infusion of a drug called Zometa. Zoledronic acid (brand name Zometa) is a medication delivered via an...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Committing to My Wellbeing as a Full-time CaregiverI said, "I look alright," as I glanced at myself shirtless in the mirror. "Even though I'm a bit chubby, this baggy shirt still makes me look decent." My dog...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Caregiving and TraumaAs many of you know, I've been a caregiver for my friends and family since I was 18 years old, which is 52 years in total. In 1970, I gave...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Finding Strength and Connecting to EmpathyI consider my wife and I a relatively young couple. Rebekah is 35, and I'm 45. We've been married for 8 and a half years. Rebekah has been fighting stage...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Why Does Self-Care Really Matter?At my age (I'll turn 73 in September), epiphanies are few and far between. That could be the price of grasping at life and all its experiences so greedily for...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
Playing “Twister” With CancerCancer doesn't consider the calendar. It doesn't avoid birthdays or important dates. We've spent holidays, anniversaries, and even some dates holding hands in a waiting room. We've said no to...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: How to Connect When You Feel AloneMy biggest, number one struggle as a caregiver and spouse is feeling alone. This feeling is hard for me to articulate in words. I don't feel the kind of lonely...Reactions0reactionsComments0 comments
