Caregiver

Through the many years I served as a cancer caregiver for my parents and, finally, my wife, I've learned a great deal about life, death, and the aftermath of cancer...

My wife has cried more tears over something even more than stage 4 cancer or the cancer treatments: dealing with the frustrations and incompetence of the medical establishment. Sounds crazy...

We've never hidden cancer or the changes it's brought to our lives. My partner and I have spoken openly and often about the changes that advanced breast cancer wrought on...

When my wife, Rebekah, was re-diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 8 years ago, we were shattered and lost. She was only 26 years old. Few people understand a cancer...

Advanced breast cancer brings minimal blessings, but I found them when I searched for them. I'm speaking for myself here; your experience will differ because cancer and its care have...

Scan day. It's here again, and I can't sleep. Tomorrow I will wake up and kiss my child goodbye while she still sleeps, drive into the city, and sit in...

My wife, Rebekah (35), lives with stage 4 breast cancer. My duties as her caregiver have increased over the last 8 years of marriage, especially after a brain surgery last...

You mean well and genuinely feel sympathy for your friend who cares for someone with advanced breast cancer. We know you mean well, and we also understand that you know...

Last February, my wife had brain surgery to remove 2 small tumors. There were unexpected outcomes resulting in her needing my care part of the time to now most of...

I can only speak for myself, of course; what I write here won't resonate with everyone. Whenever I begin an article, I wonder if anyone will relate to it. Eventually...

About 4 years ago, I felt like God spoke to me. No, not an audible voice or a vision. Nothing like that. It felt like more of an impression and...

I hear the car doors close out in the driveway and on the street. It's finally quiet in the house, except for the acoustic guitar music playing from the stereo...

As many of us do I suffer from a very short attention span. Life can pass quickly and with a partner living with advanced breast cancer every memory seems extra...

I know you probably mean well. That your desire is to introduce me to a different way of looking at advanced breast cancer. But if you've never been through diagnosis...

Some months back, I wrote several articles that started with a dire feeling but ended with a glimmer of hope. I talked about the struggles and challenges stage 4 breast...

You know how in the movies the oncologist always looks over their glasses and declares gravely, "You have 12-18 months to live." The characters grapple with this timeline, sometimes they...

Most caregivers, myself included, focus on how our experience affects us emotionally. I'm going to step aside for this article and speak with you about the physical demands of caregiving...

Eight months into our marriage, cancer stole from us the ability to have sex (i.e., intercourse). As the special intimacy of intercourse disappeared from our marriage, other romantic practices and...

As a caregiver, it's all too easy to neglect ourselves. Our life changes radically when our spouse or other relative receives a cancer diagnosis, especially if we provide the only...

"I’m fuming right now. I’m so mad I just want to cuss up a storm. I’m going to lose my freakin mind." Those were my wife’s words yesterday. She was...