The Fallible Caregiver Series: Advocating Within the Medical EstablishmentMy wife has cried more tears over something even more than stage 4 cancer or the cancer treatments: dealing with the frustrations...reactions2comments
Lessons of the CaregiverThrough the many years I served as a cancer caregiver for my parents and, finally, my wife, I've learned a great deal...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: How to Start a Cancer Support GroupWhen my wife, Rebekah, was re-diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 8 years ago, we were shattered and lost. She was only...reactionscomments
How Does One Hang On to Optimism and Joy?Advanced breast cancer brings minimal blessings, but I found them when I searched for them. I'm speaking for myself here; your experience...reactionscomments
7 Things You Should Never Say to a CaregiverYou mean well and genuinely feel sympathy for your friend who cares for someone with advanced breast cancer. We know you mean...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Learning to Delegate for HerLast February, my wife had brain surgery to remove 2 small tumors. There were unexpected outcomes resulting in her needing my care...reactionscomments
The Caregiver's MasksI can only speak for myself, of course; what I write here won't resonate with everyone. Whenever I begin an article, I...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Helping Her Build a LegacyI heard the results of a survey 25 years ago and it’s haunted me ever since. The survey results were said as...reactions1comment
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Facing Reality With HerAbout 4 years ago, I felt like God spoke to me. No, not an audible voice or a vision. Nothing like that...reactions1comment
When a Caregiver's Work is DoneI hear the car doors close out in the driveway and on the street. It's finally quiet in the house, except for...reactionscomments
Spare Me Your SermonsI know you probably mean well. That your desire is to introduce me to a different way of looking at advanced breast...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Marriage Counseling and MBCSome months back, I wrote several articles that started with a dire feeling but ended with a glimmer of hope. I talked...reactions1comment
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Don’t Let Cancer Steal Your RomanceEight months into our marriage, cancer stole from us the ability to have sex (i.e., intercourse). As the special intimacy of intercourse...reactions1comment
The Fallible Caregiver Series: My Plan to Redeem Intimate LoveIn my marriage now, I see 3 options. I see myself standing before 3 roads that fork off into very different futures...reactionscomments
The Physical Demands of CaregivingMost caregivers, myself included, focus on how our experience affects us emotionally. I'm going to step aside for this article and speak...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Helping Her Feel NormalI know what abnormal feels like. I know how awful it feels to think that everyone around you sees you as messed...reactions1comment
Dealing with Burnout When You Can't Get AwayAs a caregiver, it's all too easy to neglect ourselves. Our life changes radically when our spouse or other relative receives a...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: When Family Hurts More Than Cancer"I’m fuming right now. I’m so mad I just want to cuss up a storm. I’m going to lose my freakin mind."...reactions1comment
The Fallible Caregiver Series: When Anger Knocks, Part 1I felt it the other day. I feel it more than I wish. It often stirs right below the surface of my...reactionscomments
Caregiving Taught Me How to AdultI've always been of an artistic temperament. Besides being a musician and writer, I've also set my hands to sculpting, painting, sketching...reactionscomments
