SnapshotsAs many of us do I suffer from a very short attention span. Life can pass quickly and with a partner living...reactions1comment
Spare Me Your SermonsI know you probably mean well. That your desire is to introduce me to a different way of looking at advanced breast...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Marriage Counseling and MBCSome months back, I wrote several articles that started with a dire feeling but ended with a glimmer of hope. I talked...reactions1comment
One More DayYou know how in the movies the oncologist always looks over their glasses and declares gravely, "You have 12-18 months to live."...reactionscomments
The Physical Demands of CaregivingMost caregivers, myself included, focus on how our experience affects us emotionally. I'm going to step aside for this article and speak...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Don’t Let Cancer Steal Your RomanceEight months into our marriage, cancer stole from us the ability to have sex (i.e., intercourse). As the special intimacy of intercourse...reactions1comment
Dealing with Burnout When You Can't Get AwayAs a caregiver, it's all too easy to neglect ourselves. Our life changes radically when our spouse or other relative receives a...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: When Family Hurts More Than Cancer"I’m fuming right now. I’m so mad I just want to cuss up a storm. I’m going to lose my freakin mind."...reactions1comment
Caregiving Taught Me How to AdultI've always been of an artistic temperament. Besides being a musician and writer, I've also set my hands to sculpting, painting, sketching...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: My Plan to Redeem Intimate LoveIn my marriage now, I see 3 options. I see myself standing before 3 roads that fork off into very different futures...reactionscomments
Daring to DreamMy footsteps echoed through the empty rooms of our beloved home, once filled with so many hopes and dreams it felt like...reactions1comment
A Caregiver's Christmas MemoriesIf there's anything my late wife, Lynette, loved, it was the winter holidays. She had a real flair for decorating, baking, cooking...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Why Taking a Day Off Is EssentialI tend to burn the candle at both ends and often in the middle. My wife and I started seeing a marriage...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Helping Her Build a LegacyI heard the results of a survey 25 years ago and it’s haunted me ever since. The survey results were said as...reactions1comment
The Fallible Caregiver Series: You’re In the Ring TooI like to think of myself as a manly man. When we moved to Oregon last year, I applied for jobs at...reactionscomments
The Good Intentions of Others“The road to hell is paved with good intentions,” or so the saying goes. That's a little rough, but the meaning is...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Seeking Outside HelpI had a mental image yesterday of how I feel in life. I pictured a piece of twine rope frayed at both...reactionscomments
Conflicting Emotions are NormalShe breezed into the house, shrugging off her backpack and setting down her cappuccino. We'd known each other for a number of...reactionscomments
The Fallible Caregiver Series: Helping Her Stay ConnectedI think one of the most dominant feelings for those in Cancerland is feeling alone. At least it is for us. There...reactionscomments
Popsicles and MorphineEverything changes when it's time to call hospice. A lot of the time-consuming, mundane caregiving tasks end; taxi-cabbing, running personal errands, picking...reactions3comments
