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Do you ever get angry at friends?

I have friends that have been diagnosed with cancer. I sometimes find myself angry and jealous that they are getting chemo and can go into remission or even cured. Then I feel guilty because I should be happy for them. Has anyone else had this experience?

  1. I totally get that feeling. It’s like the opposite of survivors guilt or something.

    I think these feelings are normal. It’s a totally messed up situation we find ourselves in , and we never get to “ring the bell” so to speak. Feeling these kinds of jealous things toward people we love can be strange, for sure. I think it’s important to remember that it’s a totally normal feeling, and if you find yourself struggling to be happy for them, that is okay.

    Sending you some love today, and I hope that you can find a little clarity on your feelings! ❤️

    1. I find this incredibly common and a really normal part of the process of grieving through a non curable diagnosis. It’s okay to not be happy about it. I’d suggest writing a letter to your jealousy or even just an angry letter to help get those feelings out.

      1. That's a good idea. I'll try it t. Thanks

        1. just checking in to see if the article resonated with you at all <3 Thinking of you!

      2. As a former caregiver to two wives with breast cancer, here's my two cents: Save your anger and/or righteous indignation for your representatives and senators in Washington who determine regulations for the pharmaceutical industry. Save it for insurance providers who determine what will and will not be covered, as well as how much you pay out of your own pocket. Save it for lobbyists who influence our elected officials to vote in favor of their employers rather than what is in the best interests of their constituents.

        1. yesssss 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 we love this energy!
          Spending time and energy really getting our voices heard in congress and making change is definitely why a lot of us are here.

          It’s important to remember that everyone is allowed space to feel their feels, in whatever way feels right to them. Sometimes it’s tough to find the energy to “fight the good fight” so to speak, so focusing on what is directly in front of us feels like situations we can handle.

          Voting is incredibly important! Making change happen and really having it work is also important.

          Day to day survival is also important, and sometimes that does involve energy spent elsewhere.

          I hope you’re doing well, friend!

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