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Surviving spouse

Both my wives died of breast cancer. I married my first wife, Jimmie Lou, when she was 20 years old. She was diagnosed at 38 years and 6 months and died at 41 years and 5 months. We had a 14-year-old daughter.


Cheryl and I found each other on Match.com and were married a little over a year after Jimmie Lou died. Cheryl was diagnosed at 61 years and one month and died at 64 years and 11 months, sixteen days shy of her 65th birthday. She added two daughters to our marriage. My daughter and Cheryl's oldest have given us three grandchildren.


I contribute each month to this cause, but I get frustrated at the enormous sums raised with no cures in sight. I have written our new president a letter, hoping that he'll understand since he has also experienced a loss to cancer.

What else can I do? This is so frustrating.

  1. Scott, first thank you for being so open about your vulnerable experience with breast cancer. I can't imagine the pain you must feel after losing not one but two people you love dearly to the disease. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones, especially your daughters. Growing up without a mom is something I can't even begin to imagine, it hurts even thinking about it. Your girls are so lucky to have you in their lives and I hope you all find ways to heal and find peace within the never ending pain you probably feel. I appreciate you so much , your story, your willingness to share, is very admirable. I hope to hear more from you. We are thinking of you. 💙 Best, Amani (@AdvancedBreastCancer.net team)

    1. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry for both of your losses. It IS frustrating. I am a stage IV patient and don't want to leave my young children to grow up without me. Like you, I share your hope that our new president will help catapult a cure, especially considering he has mentioned this before due to his own experience losing someone to cancer. Let's hope... All the best, Danielle, Team Member with www.advancedbreastcancer.net

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