Second time’s a charm
Hi! I am 52 y/o. I was diagnosed with bilateral breast ca at age 46. After chemo, double mastectomy, and radiation, I was declared cancer free. Last month, I was diagnosed with stg IV breast ca with extensive bone Mets. I have a 9 y/o son who is my joy. I am terrified of leaving him without a mom. It is the one fear that haunts me day and night. I am working with a therapist and teaching myself to focus on even the smallest moments he and share daily rather than thinking about what I don’t have control over. Does anyone have any suggestions or thoughts, thank you
, I want to thank you for feeling comfortable sharing this with us. I can hear how much you're hurting; I wish I could give you a hug! Coping with the reality of things and trying to stay positive can really take a toll on you. I know you mentioned working with a therapist; this is a great support. I have also heard other community members have gotten support from an oncology social worker through their doctor's office, which could be worth asking about. Do you know if your cancer center has in-person or virtual support groups? This could be beneficial for you as well.
I am hoping other community members will chime in and be able to share their personal experiences with you, but in the meantime, I am going to link a few articles below. The authors share their personal parenting experiences with MBC, and I hope you will find some comfort in knowing you are not alone in how/what you're thinking and feeling. Please remember we will always be here to listen and provide support as best we can; don't hesitate to reach out. Sending you gentle hugs and prayers! -Beth (Team Member)
https://advancedbreastcancer.net/living/stage-4-mom
https://advancedbreastcancer.net/living/metastatic-motherhood
https://advancedbreastcancer.net/living-coping/talk-children
https://advancedbreastcancer.net/living/metastatic-single-momthank you so much for your supportive words and taking the time to find resources for me! I am so grateful for your kindness
Absolutely. Please know we’re always here for you. If you’re feeling up it, olasss keep us posted on how you’re doing. Hugs, -Beth (advancedbreastcancer.net Team Member)
Hi! I have been going through the early stages of divorce. I’m leaving a spouse that has been emotionally and financially abusive for years. I am not going to allow it to continue and found an apartment for myself and 10 y/o son. I need peace, and opportunity to put myself first with no toxicity, no constant energy drain. My survival is literally at stake. I want to be around as long as possible to support and love my child. He needs me, and I definitely need him.
